And the conversation kept on coming back to “Worry”. Worried if I am not good enough, worried if I might make mistakes, worried that we will not win. These are the types of beliefs and thinking that will get in the way of playing the game of your life.
Then it came to me, I asked the boys to gather round as I would tell them what worry actually is and not a mumbo-jumbo sports psychology definition! And as they came closer and closer looking at me with intent I encouraged them to come closer still. Then I whispered worry is…worry is…”talking crap in your heads” and after a little pause everyone laughed and got it.
Worry does nothing positive it performs no useful function! it keeps us from our best. Its that little voice that makes fears bigger, not always easy to stop but if we see it for what is it..Talking nonsense in our head we can laugh and raise it up to a concern and then do something about it. For example.
If I am worried I might not be fit enough I stay In my head even more and probably don’t do anything about it. just think about how unfit I may compare myself to other people over and over.
If I move that up to a concern I get my training shoes on and go out for a run, I take action or I do a few push ups or sit ups, Or I call Johnny and see if he will go down the park for a game.
There is nothing constructive, nor productive about worry. Worrying can cause you paralysis. However, if we frame these kind of thoughts as “concerns”, then we a have a more sensible reference to use for taking action.
Remember that you always have to see your worries for what they are, and then laugh when you see yourself begin to worry. Reach beyond your worries and look towards the end outcome!
About the Author:
By: Don MacNaughton
Want to learn More About Donald MacNaughton? www.donmacnaughton.org His work spans leadership and performance development in both the corporate and sporting arenas. Zoned in Performance is a business consultancy specialising in High Performance Coaching and Performance Psychology. To learn more about ‘Mental Toughness” to achieve winning results, sign up free for the “The Winning Edge-The 7 Keys to Playing the Game of Life. To register interest e-mail support@zonedinperformance.com. Us
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